I really dislike when people judge others or say how others should feel or how long it should take for people to “get over” a loved ones death based on what they think they know. Everyone is different and deserves to do their grieving process in their own time. No one has the right to tell or say how long a person should take to “get over” the death of a loved one. Some people take years, some months. I strongly believe that people who lose a loved one should be allowed to deal with that death in their own way and time.
I lost my biological grandmother in 2004, my grand aunt that played an integral part in my upbringing died in 2006, my cousin that I looked up to died in 2010, the man that helped my grand aunt to raise me died in 2011, my aunt that also played an integral roll in my life as a child and adult died in 2017 and my mom died in May of this year. I don’t know when or if I will “get over” any of these deaths. I can’t talk to or touch them anymore, and that is painful.
I am broken inside. I try to put my best foot forward on a daily basis, but some days are better than others. I am a work in progress. I have so many emotions going on that I cannot separate right now. I was always the “strong” one; I don’t know how to be “strong” anymore. I wake up each day thinking of my mortality and what it really is. I ask a million questions about “why” everyday. So I don’t need anyone to be in my presence saying that person should have already “gotten over” it. I am tired of people.